I read this in a book.
We win by losing.
We lose what is not helpful for us or what can be made up again, therefore, we win.
I could think of one creature that does this when things get tough — the lizard.
If a predator gets them from their tail it will fall off and they can run away.
They lose the tail but they win the battle.
Failure is similar for us. We fail quite a bit but we can let it go and continue moving on.
Lose that instance of failing and move on.